“Peter would think her sentimental. So she was. For she had come to feel that it was the only thing worth saying – what one felt. Cleverness was silly. One must say simply what one felt.”
I love this quote from Mrs Dalloway and day after day Woolf's melancholic heroine becomes dearer to my heart. Mrs Dalloway's suggestion of saying what one feels simply and plain is something I can agree with. Not an easy task, though. To reveal one's own feelings makes a person fragile but, if you think twice, it makes a person stronger as well.
Cleverness may help you look stronger, but it may be silly on certain occasions in life. What ones? Those Woolf calls "moments of being". It is not your brain nor your cleverness which help you through those moments. It is not a question of sentimentality, but one of honesty and truth.
I love this quote from Mrs Dalloway and day after day Woolf's melancholic heroine becomes dearer to my heart. Mrs Dalloway's suggestion of saying what one feels simply and plain is something I can agree with. Not an easy task, though. To reveal one's own feelings makes a person fragile but, if you think twice, it makes a person stronger as well.
Cleverness may help you look stronger, but it may be silly on certain occasions in life. What ones? Those Woolf calls "moments of being". It is not your brain nor your cleverness which help you through those moments. It is not a question of sentimentality, but one of honesty and truth.
I may have become a tiny bit sentimental in my old age, I can't deny it, and that is something, I hope, understandable. However, I think this is the time to say what we feel, because ... if not now, when? How we feel is important, crucial, vital and we have not much more time to waste in lies and not much more space for regrets.
I started writing this post after meeting, for the second time in less than a year, a man who dares to share what he feels, not only what he thinks: gifted writer and extraordinary man, Fabio Stassi. He is highly communicative, grounded and self-deprecative, smiling and direct, simple and astonishingly deep.
Second meeting and second epiphany: this man and his words can make my heart melt and my brain work out a flow of thoughts quite like ... fireworks. So many inputs that my mind's reaction is an explosion of ideas and feelings. You see? I'm just telling you what I felt, the only thing worth saying.
So what did Fabio Stassi say that was so thought - provoking and emotionally strong? He discussed his book, Come un respiro interrotto, with an audience of readers in a town not distant from mine and I was there with friends. He managed to surprise me with the analysis of themes, motifs and ideas which were different from the ones we had discussed when I happened to listen to him for the first time last summer.
Second meeting and second epiphany: this man and his words can make my heart melt and my brain work out a flow of thoughts quite like ... fireworks. So many inputs that my mind's reaction is an explosion of ideas and feelings. You see? I'm just telling you what I felt, the only thing worth saying.
So what did Fabio Stassi say that was so thought - provoking and emotionally strong? He discussed his book, Come un respiro interrotto, with an audience of readers in a town not distant from mine and I was there with friends. He managed to surprise me with the analysis of themes, motifs and ideas which were different from the ones we had discussed when I happened to listen to him for the first time last summer.